I learned recently of the importance of focusing on “what I want, and what I love”, rather than “what I don’t”!
When you draw attention to issues within society, the jackals of consensus reality all come out, gnashing their teeth and growling at you to conform!
It is stressful and overwhelming and not something enjoyable and beautiful at all! And this most definitely proved to me once and for all, just how much better it is to focus on “what I love and am grateful for”, rather than commenting on what is not really working.
People’s True Personalities Revealed
What I discovered is that when you draw attention to the limitations within the material world view, people who are normally completely silent, suddenly come forth, bearing criticism of the more expansive or questioning view you are offering. Even though they clearly have little to no experience in Expansive Consciousness, and even though they have nothing of true value to contribute on the subject. It is obvious their intention is only to stamp all over a greater truth, so the world view they are invested in, is not challenged.
And on the flip side… only One of my friends (who I know shares some of my views) stood forth to help “defend me”. The Silence from others with an expansive view, was deafening!
Obviously some would have been crippled by fear, and relief that it was not them being targeted.
All very revealing indeed!
“Tall Poppy Syndrome” is Alive and Well!
I can now see clearly, that if ever I express something that does not fit within the consensus reality worldview of mainstream folk; whenever I express something they feel is “inappropriate” or “wrong” – these folk feel compelled to “speak up”, to tell me of my “wrongness” – to tell me I must conform to their view of the world, how it should run, and what is “right”!
However this behaviour is not about me, nor about what I have shared. Like all judging behaviour it is about themselves.
The compulsion to point out other people’s errors and faults, to behave as “fact police”, is in truth driven by a desperate need to control everyone and everything around them… it is driven by fear, and not feeling safe!
And yes, it is the chosen behaviour of those who prefer to pull others down, rather than do the work of lifting themselves up!
This behaviour is certainly not an act of Love and caring! If it were, firstly, this would not be the Only time I heard from these friends, it would instead be an occasional comment amongst many other positively reinforcing communications and interactions.
And secondly it would be written in loving, supportive and caring language – which these comments rarely, if ever, are!
This type of judgement-based behaviour creates no value in the world. It does not “make the world a better place” – if that is even remotely a driving factor within judgemental people. All it does is create stress and separation. And it is tremendously unhealthy – for as we know, we all naturally recoil from criticism and judgement!
How do I know all this is so?
Because until recently, this was me!
Time for some Honest Self Observation
Ask yourself this: After “correcting” someone, after telling them they are wrong, that their behaviour does not “correctly conform”, do you feel more expansive, more inspired, more joyous??
Do you feel your Heart beating boldly with Lovingkindness and True Nurture? If not, it means your contribution to the collective is not offering these things either!
The world is already full of “Negative Nancy’s” – and all the horrors and cruelty are the result.
So take this opportunity to realise: You are not bringing more positivity to the world by contributing negativity! Not creating more Light by sharing Darkness.
Unloving behaviour, as in behaviour not motivated by Love, simply means you lost an opportunity to share Love, to bring Joy, to create Light – and that is the real tragedy! For that which we act on becomes our nature.
Tools for Transformation
If all of this judgemental behaviour was really being motivated by Love and Caring, and not just a Critical Reaction – the person judging would observe the so-called problem, take a step back, and reflect on a solution to help change this pattern within themselves and within the world!!
Being a reactionary keyboard warrior will never achieve positive change.
The first step, is to identify the nature of the problem.
Secondly, is to look and see where and how it is operating Within Yourself – for what we see and react to in others, is what we most need to address within ourselves.
Thirdly, heal yourself of the affliction.
Then, and only then, look back out into the world and at others, and see if you still feel it is important benevolent work for you, to assist others to likewise heal.
If yes, then meditate on what might be the best, most Heart Based Way you could structure and deliver that support – ensuring those who You feel need it, are in fact open, ready and desirous of your help!
This is how Love works. The unsolicited, judgemental reactions of the opinionated keyboard warrior are Far from “What Love would do”!
Authentically
Azure Seer
Much food for thought contained in your post. I’ve been concerned recently about how judgemental I still am and trying to reason out why this should be or whether I’m just now more aware of doing it. It’s difficult (for me anyway) to always come from a place of love but I’m working on it! Thanks for this post and congratulations on your 100th.
Hello Sally, I just discovered that I had not replied to your comment here. My deepest apologies.
Judgement is a tricky one, as it is so easily conflated with discernment. Discernment we need, else we can make very poor choices; Judgement we do not.
An observation only becomes judgement when we add value into the mix… usually in the form of lessening the value of someone or something as a result of what we are judging within them.
And of course, we must ever remember that everything we see in others, especially those things that trigger an emotional response from us, are things we need to see and address within ourselves, in some form or other.
I hope you have been doing well with seeing and managing your judgements since this comment last year.
Cheers n Light
Azure Seer